Posted by lemonaide on October 5, 2008, at 11:46:56
In reply to Your Everything?, posted by JayMac on October 3, 2008, at 14:35:13
I just to feel like this, and I think it is natural to yearn for this.
But the thing I have learned is nobody can play that role, nobody can be your everything. Some children think of their parents like this. But eventually they learn to make other relationship with people to fulfill some of those needs, and also turn to themselves for some of it. What do they call it? self efficacy or something.
But the thing is when we are a helpless infant, we have to count on someone for everything. But as we get older, we need to find our own ways to fill those needs. Some of us figure this out later if we had some kind of trauma in childhood. But sometimes I wish I too could just be taken care by somebody, fulfilling every need, but maybe because I have never had that by anyone in life.
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