Posted by Nadezda on September 30, 2008, at 11:22:17
In reply to Suggestions needed. Failing therapy with a big F, posted by Looney Tunes on September 29, 2008, at 19:36:20
Hi, Looney Tunes.
Maybe you have a form of performance anxiety. But I think the main question is: do you feel some kind of movement, some connection underneath or through the silence and anger or distrust, or resistance? Do you feel that some sort of potential alliance is wordlessly being formed?
I sense that it is-- but that's just a guess.
If it is-- then you're doing a lot of work, without knowing it. And maybe it's coming to that point where that work will pay off with a beginning conversation-- a jumping off point-- any one of your "many problems"-- pick one or another, you'll get where you need to go-- which can begin yet another kind of evolution to build on the basis you've created.
But if you don't feel that that alliance is being built, then maybe you and your T are not a good fit. It's not that you're getting an F, but that you and your T don't have that important kind of communication that would make a deeper investment possible.
I'm glad you're wanting to make this shift-- it seems like a good sign. The things to do is act on it-- either with him , or with another T. No matter what, the time you've spent isn't wasted-- because you're coming to learn what you're looking for in a T. Often it's difficult to know that-- and to find the right person.
Nadezda
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