Posted by Looney Tunes on September 29, 2008, at 19:24:12
In reply to What lurks underneath idealization?, posted by lucie lu on September 29, 2008, at 18:33:07
Hmm. I was just thinking about this also, but my idealization takes the form of me telling T that he is smart and highly intelligent, etc.
Am I masking anger? No, I think I am masking my low self-esteem. Because by idealizing him, I can never be anything, just a piece of crap. My idealization keeps me where I am used to being.
Now, I don't know if I would consider "loving feelings" idealization, unless something is tied to those loving feelings like "you are the most wonderful T, you understand me like no one else." This would be idealization.... masked with loving feelings.
But saying that you "care about your T,"...I would not consider that idealization. That is a true feeling.
Just my thoughts ......
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