Posted by Nadezda on September 19, 2008, at 10:58:24
In reply to I miss him so much, posted by 10derHeart on September 19, 2008, at 3:12:00
Hi, 10der. Have you ever considered continuing therapy by using phone therapy instead of inperson therapy? I know it isn't as satisfying as in-person but maybe you can arrange to spend some time each year seeing him in person-- or not, if that would be too emotionally difficult.
My T sees a lot of people on the phone. Some are people who've moved away in the middle of therapy; others are people who can't get to his office for periods of time, or even days at a time.
I know at least one other T who does this, too, so it isn't unheard of.
I think that if your connection to your T is so strong, maybe you need to continue it until you feel that you're ready to end.
I'm in a DBT group, for example, and this summer a woman who lives in Hawaii came to the city to stay for summer, partly to be in the group. She mentioned that she did this every summer.
I get the feeling that in our peripatetic society, when people just don't have stable living places as they used to, more and more people are preserving important, permanent connections in these ways-- putting together the time and space for the connection to remain as strong, even without the ongoing physical presence of the person.
I don't think that you need to move on, just because you've moved-- if you think you still need your T.
Nadezda
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