Posted by Dinah on September 19, 2008, at 10:50:42
In reply to I miss him so much, posted by 10derHeart on September 19, 2008, at 3:12:00
I hope you don't regret it this morning. :)
Your relationship with your therapist is wonderful. And it sounds to me as if you're beginning to accept that he's doing this because he wants to, and he isn't likely to end his willingness.
Yet, not only did you move away from him physically, but the relationship changes I'm sure when a therapist is no longer in the standard therapist role. He's still your therapist, but it's not exactly the same. While he's really expressing his caring for you and commitment to you, and that's nice in its own way.
When my therapist went away for a while it wasn't as much a dilemma. I'd just start feeling a bit better, then I'd hear from him and the pain would intensify. Because he's so awful at emails, and not much better on the phone, the solution was far easier.
I'm not at all suggesting that you tell him not to contact you anymore, like I did. :)
But maybe distraction? Distract distract distract. Grieve also, of course. But when you need to get away from the grief distraction does work.
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