Posted by antigua3 on September 16, 2008, at 11:57:45
In reply to Have you ever told your therapist... (trigger), posted by DAisym on September 15, 2008, at 21:15:13
In much earlier years, I think I told my T "I hate you." Now, it's more "I love you." I may tell her that I hate her when she goes away, and she is fine with that.
I actually told my pdoc just last week, "I hate you," and he said that was fine, he could deal with it. I don't think he took it as seriously as I meant it, but it was OK. He wants me to express the rage I feel but cannot access, so he is always encouraged by my negative feelings. Also, and this is the opposite of you, I don't really care what my pdoc thinks of me. I can say, "I hate you," because I mean it, usually over some feelings he is bringing up or just that I don't like what he says or the advice he is giving.
In any case, while it may feel bad to you, your therapist is right. He can handle it and understands where it's coming from so he isn't offended. So don't worry.
Yes, therapy is hard. The hardest thing in the world to do, sometimes, and it's so wearing on the sould. But it gets better, as you've seen, and there are still lots of highs and lows to go through.
Take care Daisy, and express yourself. Your T is wonderful and can handle it.
antigua
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