Posted by Tamar on September 4, 2008, at 16:21:20
In reply to Re: Spoke to therapist » Tamar, posted by Annierose on September 4, 2008, at 15:51:05
> I'm not sure which is worse ... I have no emotional attachment to stuff. I hate stuff. It overwhelms me.
Oh gosh! Yeah, it can be overwhelming. Isn't that still some kind of emotional attachment, even if it's not a good kind of attachment?
> Something more to take care of. My fantasy is that someone will come to my house, box up all my stuff and leave only what is essential (and what clothes fit me ... not what I hope will fit me if I lose weight) then take it all away.
Right there with you on the clothes that might fit if only a few pounds would spontaneously disappear!
In my fantasy I sometimes think about what I would take with me if I left home - what would really be essential. And I end up listing the most boring and tedious stuff: bank statements, insurance documents, a chair, a pillow... stuff like that, stuff that doesn't provide pleasure.
I think the hard thing would be having to make decisions about the non-essentials - like which books to keep and which CDs to keep.
Occasionally I've seen TV programs where people get strangers to come and get rid of their stuff. It's usually people who are terrible hoarders and have an emotional attachment to everything. Wouldn't it be great if someone would provide that service - ideally for free?
> I have talked a little about this in therapy but it's still not resolved.
Well, it's very hard to resolve something that's overwhelming! Maybe there's something symbolic going on, and perhaps you need to find out what the stuff represents in order to be able to deal with it?
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