Posted by Racer on September 3, 2008, at 17:29:06
In reply to OMG » Racer, posted by susan47 on September 3, 2008, at 9:44:54
I'm glad you found it helpful, Susan.
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> Let me know when I'm coming around to a healthy way of thinking, Racer. I'm trying. I still don't really believe I have any rights, after all I am Borderline.
>Maybe it would help you to think of Borderline in a different, more supportive way? There was something I read in Linehan's book about how BPD would develop -- she used the example of a sensitive child whose parents didn't respond to lower key requests for appropriate attention, but did respond once the child had escalated. That's describing a learned behavior -- the desired result is obtained by escalating, so why not skip the unsuccessful model? Why not go straight to Tantrum Mode? The child never learns appropriately modulated emotions, because his/her emotions are only addressed at extremes.
If you think of the emotional dysregulation as a learned behavior, which can be UNlearned with effort on your part, does that help you see it more charitably?
I'm very glad what I wrote helped.
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