Posted by Racer on September 1, 2008, at 16:26:31
In reply to Re: General thoughts on the subject of responsibility » seldomseen, posted by susan47 on September 1, 2008, at 11:23:23
> > I definately think that bad therapy can be repaired. I just think it can be hard to reach a resolution with the former therapist.
> >
> Hard, or IMPOSSIBLE? How can a resolution be reached if no responsibility is taken? The lack of responsibility leads to others being harmed. I can't sit down and pretend this didn't happen. It did. I was hurt.Susan, I'm not quite sure what's going on in this thread. You seem to be interpreting SeldomSeen's posts as attacks on you or as indicating disbelief in what you've been saying. I don't think that's the case.
In the exchange I quoted above, I read Seldom to be offering support and validation about your distress. The only disagreement I see in her post is on whether or not your recovery from that bad therapy experience depends on your ex-T saying it's his fault.
Maybe I'm wrong, and maybe there's history I don't know about, but I hoped maybe this was just a misunderstanding and that maybe I could help.
By the way, Susan -- I've come to the conclusion that my own recovery from my own bad therapy experience really doesn't depend on anything the people responsible do or don't do. I imagined myself reading a letter of apology from them, and how I would feel afterward. I realized that I'd feel as though I'd read a letter of apology -- but I would also be asking, "why do I still feel so bad?" I'd still have to do the same work I'm doing now in therapy, although I'd likely also have the added trauma of the process of getting that apology.
That may not apply to anyone other than me, but I was hoping maybe you'd find it helpful, too.
Peace.
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