Posted by seldomseen on September 1, 2008, at 14:24:26
In reply to Re: General thoughts on the subject of responsibility » seldomseen, posted by susan47 on September 1, 2008, at 11:23:23
"Hard, or IMPOSSIBLE? How can a resolution be reached if no responsibility is taken?"
I think you can reach a resolution from within yourself. I think there is a point where what he does or doesn't do shouldn't matter anymore. We have to work on ourselves.
"....THERAPY SHOULD NOT BECOME AN OBSTACLE ON THE ROAD TO PEACE.
Seldomseen, you have apparently accepted the unacceptable"No, therapy shouldn't be. But it has been for you and I'm so sorry. It should never be that way.
Susan, I work with big cats. Big wild cats. I love the tigers, but think the leopards are the most stunning creatures of all. Very dark, very passionate, very intense. Leopards will "see red" however, and by that I mean they lose all sense of awareness to the point they don't even realize they are hurting themselves.
The best example of this comes from leopard trapping and relocation in India. With all the best intentions biologists used to lure the leopards into a cage by putting prey just out of the leopard's reach. This method had to be stopped however, because many a leopard was found mortally injured from repeatedly lunging against and ramming into the bars. But they weren't trying to get out of the cage. The cats would beat themselves to death trying to get at the prey just on the other side of the bars.
They don't seem to be to uncomfortable in the cage or even try to get out, they just see their target and can't let go of it.
Tigers don't do this
Lions don't do this
Jaguars don't do this.
Their focus is on getting out of the cage.I guess I am more like a tiger than a leopard.
Seldom
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