Posted by Amanda29 on August 30, 2008, at 11:34:22
In reply to Re: Therapist tells me.... » Amanda29, posted by raisinb on August 30, 2008, at 10:55:43
Thank you for all of your posts...each one is helpful...I am going though a rough time, I dont love myself...I have been going though transference with my therapist, I have crossed boundaries with him, I do want him to love me..the thing is..he has told me that there is nothing I could do that would make him love me less...and I know he doesnt mean LOVE as in romantically, but when someone tells me they love me...I run with it...so those words have hit me hard. He did tell me that I am loveable and worhty to be loved and I just dont see it. I am trying to learn to love myself and I do believe that I have to love myself before I can expact anyone else to..but to me..there is nothing to love. and I know I am being hard on myself..but seriously I have been through too many failed friendships and they have all pointed out things that are wrong with me...so once that happens so many times, a person will start to think..ok well, maybe they are right..maybe I am not as loveable as I thought I was...at least this is what I think. My family cannot even love me the way that I want them to..and that hurts very much.
Im not as obsessive as I was at trying to get my T to like me...I know he does...as a person. He cares about me and wants the best for me and that is all I need right now. I need someone to care and to show empathy...and he does just that.
I am just so hurt right now..but thank you for your thoughtful posts.
take care.
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