Posted by healing928 on August 29, 2008, at 21:35:41
In reply to Therapist tells me...., posted by Amanda29 on August 29, 2008, at 20:50:45
Amanda,
I saw your last two threads, and I had the same feelings and issues with feeling unworthy and being extremely dependent on my t. I felt like he was the only one that "got me." We are working on mindfulness, and practicing the buddha philosophy. It truly is transforming my life, and don't know what would have happened if he didn't come into my life. I have had so much drama in my life, and didn't want to accept the life I created. I made my life very painful by judging myself, not allowing others in, and feeling like others were constantly judging me.
At the end of the day, we all have to decide what truly is important in our lives. To me it is my daughter. Tara Brach has a wonderful book called Radical Acceptance. Dr. Brach is a psychologist, and a teacher of mindfulness. She speaks from her experiences, and her heart.
I have learned I can not change others behaviors, only my own. It has taken me many years of being hurt to get to this point. My family is completely toxic, and I have learned I can't be around them to have a peace in my life. I have learned painful things happen, and I can't change them. I am learning I have to live in the present moment.I am learning who I am and what is truly important to me.
I am not going to say, oh you should follow buddhism, but I think you need to be kinder to yourself. You need to find something that will work for you.Please be kind to yourself.
Healing
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