Posted by stellabystarlight on August 23, 2008, at 20:52:52
In reply to Re: Sharing food with your therapist... » stellabystarlight, posted by twinleaf on August 23, 2008, at 14:44:46
Twinleaf,
What's fascinating to me is when your conscious mind meets your unconscious mind, and your awareness of it propelling you to the next level of understanding and action. I was conscious of innocently sharing some food with my therapist and feeling good about it, but unconscious of profound emotions associated with it. I didn't even want to talk about it for fear of losing it. Yes, a way of being intimate without either of us having to confront it and give it up. I wonder how much he is consciously aware of all this? I guess we'll eventually address this when we're ready as you say. So interesting to me too.
You have accurately assessed the dynamics of my relationship with my therapist. We have a very strong connection that is full of intensity and passion on many levels. This facet of our relationship has actually proven to be a positive in my case, even though our last rupture happened because of it. He almost "abandoned" me - my greatest fear! However, this rupture forced us to talk about some hard issues, and we jointly decided to make a commitment to repairing our relationship as best as we could. It's so much better now - we even laugh through the ridiculousness of it all. Maybe the boundaries have been crossed at times, but it's somehow working for us, and my life is improving...finally. I'm actually noticing changes.
Thanks for validating and articulating my "imperfectly perfect" relationship with my therapist. It is loaded with transference and countertransference, but now I realize that it's the only door out to a healthier place for me. I've never learned anything new about myself from other therapists before this one. It's very satisfying to have someone understand this and clarify it for me...thanks.
So...you are a scientist! I'll say you're also a stellar therapist since 2 years in psychatric residentcy is pretty intense. How much do I owe you for helping me today? I'll send you a check if you don't take credit cards. Did I get a full 50 min. hour?...lol.
By the way, I've downloaded both "Rupture and Repair of Coop in BPD" and "Trust Me On This" articles from Science Magazine. So interesting, but I'm doing mental gymnastics trying to understand parts of it. I hope you don't mind me posting a question to you about it later.
Thanks again for your help. I hope your own therapy is going well.
Stellabystarlight
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