Posted by Dinah on August 23, 2008, at 13:52:20
In reply to Re: It really doesn't matter » Dinah, posted by twinleaf on August 23, 2008, at 11:24:50
Sometimes it makes me a bit uneasy that he doesn't *know* these things. And even more uneasy to try to point them out to him. Like maybe I'd be bringing something to his notice that he hasn't thought of, and that might have a negative impact on our relationship.
Yet I've read in books and on this board that it isn't *that* uncommon, so maybe he doesn't have a gap in his knowledge base. At least part of it has to be me. If for some reason his office was inaccessible it would be different of course.
I think we've recently reached an even deeper level of trust with each other. I casually mentioned something a while back about my reasonably good relationship with my husband probably being one reason I never felt any sexual or romantic transference towards my therapist. Since then, I've noticed he seems more relaxed about things like this, or about mentioning his wife. In turn, I'm more relaxed, and in fact mentioned something very (objectively) embarrassing of a sexual nature to him the other day without covering my face or asking him to close his eyes. I'm somehow thinking he wouldn't have suggested this if he didn't feel really really comfortable that I wouldn't get the wrong impression.
I really really like that we're comfortable with each other. But comfy or not, I value therapy far too much to want to allow any permeable barriers. Or perhaps I should say that I know which barriers would compromise the structure of therapy for me, and I don't want those barriers to be permeable.
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