Posted by seldomseen on August 11, 2008, at 7:41:45
In reply to Found out what my T's wife looks like..., posted by stellabystarlight on August 10, 2008, at 20:40:14
When it comes to jealousy...
During therapy, the therapist is usually (and if done well) entirely focused on us. It is entirely possible that we see then when they are at their most caring, most attentive, most healing. Of course we idealize them and want more from them.
However, we don't know the "rest" of them. They may be grumpy when they wake, can't balance a checkbook, hog the remote, be a total slob, they may even be gassy. They may hoard paper towels. The reality of who they are is hidden so they can focus on the reality of who we are.
I guess what I am trying to say is that there may be absolutely nothing over which to be jealous.
We get the best and perhaps that's the way it should be.
Seldom
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