Posted by backseatdriver on July 22, 2008, at 12:10:27
In reply to Re: Wanting to connect about desire and transferen, posted by FindingMyDesire on July 21, 2008, at 21:26:04
Hi -- I think I was unclear, yipes. I meant to say, I really ought to be talking about my desire for my T in therapy. Not talking about it is, for me, a way to avoid talking about one of my core problems -- feeling unlovable.
That said, something happened yesterday in session which made me think it would be better *not* to bring this stuff into the session. Basically, he *thought* I was saying "I want a personal relationship" and he basically made me feel like a moron for that.
Even though I hadn't actually issued the invitation for a "personal relationship."
Transference cuts both ways, I guess. They feel as much for us as we do for them, and it is confusing on both sides. Or at least, that's been my experience. Maybe I need a smarter T?
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