Posted by FindingMyDesire on July 21, 2008, at 21:26:04
In reply to Wanting to connect about desire and transference, posted by FindingMyDesire on July 19, 2008, at 2:28:59
Daisym - Thanks so much for your thoughts! Your reassurance about fantasies being mine and about me (not really the T) is very helpful. I think that is at the root of my issues around desires anyway - what are mine?
Also, the things you said about curling up for comfort too... wow, there is a part of my fantasy that includes something like that. I didn't really think about that before. Kind of links to the maternal thing which may link to some of the shame. Hmm...
I go tomorrow. I have been hardly able to think of much else but what I can and can't say to her...
backseatdriver - I would love to better understand what you mean about avoiding the desire for your T making you more able to bring in issues around being unlovable - if I summarized that correctly.
Thanks!
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