Posted by lucie lu on July 7, 2008, at 4:54:55
In reply to Turning my babblemail on, but leaving this site, posted by Happyflower on July 7, 2008, at 0:26:14
HF, What happened just now?? Seemed to me somewhat of a disconnect from your previous posts lately, where it also seemed to me you were both giving and receiving lots of support and information. I personally have found your posts helpful and insightful and never less than supportive. I am glad to hear you say the posts from me and Philippa also made you feel supported.
You know, about this "feeling unwelcome to post." Because it seemed to be a big issue, I actually looked back to that thread when Bob came on. What he had commented on specifically was that you, perhaps in your enthusiasm of the moment, had started five threads (consecutively - in a row) and the rule was something about 2 or 3, I forget which, posts in a row. Unless I am missing something else? There was nothing at all about your posting too much. You weren't blocked and it seemed to me he very respectfully made his request, even commenting that it was not at all personal.
HF I hope you will take this post in the manner in which it is intended and realize that I am trying to offer support and what I hope is useful feedback. It is so easy for us to hear messages in what others do that were not intended by them. I know that is a problem for me. I wouldn't want you to leave the board, and especially for a pretty minor thing involving the mechanics of the board. To me it doesn't seem any more than, to use a rough analogy, if you are in a room and you accidentally raise your voice in telling an interesting story or something and someone asks you to please keep it down a little. No one's asking that person not to talk or being mean about it, right? And that same person may be a very valuable member of the group in that room who no one would want to be silenced, including the person who made the request.
I really hope you can feel comfortable and supported here HF. I was also surprised because I was just thinking the other day that the board and postings lately seemed to be very supportive with a lot of thoughtful participation from a many regular posters as well as new voices. I haven't seen anything over the past couple of months that have seen like attacks on anyone. Perhaps there is a history here but group dynamics always change.
Anyway I hope you take this post well and change your mind about not posting anymore. And I'm sure others feel the same way.
(((((HF))))
Warmly yours, Lucie
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