Posted by lucie lu on July 5, 2008, at 21:55:10
In reply to Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, posted by Happyflower on July 5, 2008, at 20:41:52
HF, that's too bad about the other place, especially since you have a lifetime membership. I might be wrong about this, but I think that if you really think that place is grotty and you'd rather go back to the other place, you should do it. Why should anyone else drive you out of a place you want to be? A lot of getting better is learning to take control of your life, and if that's what it takes, so be it. But then you'd need to take control of how to respond to your old T when you do overlap at the gym. Maybe you could decide ahead of time how to deal with potential encounters so you will retain control of the situation rather than letting his actions drive yours. I have to say though that I'm not really sure about this advice because I don't know much about your past situation with him. I just hate the idea of your having to be at that other place, if it's as bad as you say, while he remains at "the better place." Retaking control of your options and interactions with people, including him, just seems like a good idea and a healthy step. Something to think about, anyway. See what other babblers think.
Good luck, Lucie
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