Posted by raisinb on July 2, 2008, at 19:12:19
In reply to when a therapist says..., posted by meme3842 on July 2, 2008, at 15:31:59
Hi meme--
Well, at least your therapist says it! :)
There have been many times I've needed to hear something (including, "I care about you") and my therapist wouldn't say it. (As far as I can tell, she does this because she wants to analyze why it is so important to hear her say those exact words, because that's where she pushes me every time we end up on this topic).
This is *infuriating* when I need to be reassured. But I admit my belief that I'm not "care-able" (a word she coined) does need to be analyzed. So maybe that is what is going on with you, too--that you can't believe you are worthy of being cared about?
She does say she was thinking about me outside of sessions frequently, and I believe her. I don't think she has a reason to lie about that. So I guess I'd ask you, do you think your therapist has a reason to give you empty words? If so, what would that reason be?
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