Posted by lucie lu on July 2, 2008, at 16:52:14
In reply to when a therapist says..., posted by meme3842 on July 2, 2008, at 15:31:59
Meme - I too struggle with such questions. Except mine is the other way around - my T will rarely, and I do mean rarely, say those words aloud (I'm going to start a thread soon about THAT because it is bugging me). Yet he fully expects me to know how much he cares about me. It's an ongoing issue for us and remains very much a work in progress. It's not that he's cold, he's very warm and caring, I just have some rather large blind spots in that area.
Otherwise I agree with BSD - if you can feel their caring, then they probably mean it.I think about the people I know on this board and I really don't think there is *one single person* who would be taken in for a minute by those words from a cold, uninvolved, uncaring T. Right?? Our problems tend to lie in the opposite direction - being able to recognize and accept caring when it is offered by T's who do care for us.
Assuming we are talking about our own caring T's, I think ultimately the issue is not about them, it is about us and what we are able to accept from other people.
Let me know when you find your answer ;)
Lucie
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