Posted by Fallsfall on June 28, 2008, at 11:28:05
In reply to My behaviors -Let me be clear!, posted by Looney Tunes on June 27, 2008, at 20:16:48
There are good therapists out there, and you should find one to help you. You sound motivated to change, and that is the single most important quality in a therapy patient.
Different therapists specialize in different kinds of patients. Sounds like your current therapist isn't a good match for you. The key will be to find a therapist who IS a good match.
Do you have any friends who are therapists? When I was looking for a therapist, I talked to the mother of a friend of my daughter's who is, herself, a therapist. I was able to tell her the basics of my needs, and she produced a list of people I could call. Because she knew the people in the area and their styles, she generated a list of people who wouldn't be scared off by me, and who had the skills to help me. I called a number of her suggestions and interviewed (had a session with) 4 or 5 of them. I could tell quickly if they seemed to be a match or not.
You are aware enough of your issues so you should be able to be an informed consumer. Use this to your advantage. Shop around.
Have you considered the different kinds of therapy? Cognitive Behavioral (in particular a flavor called DBT) is often recommended for BPD. But I was diagnosed with BPD and while DBT was helpful, Cognitive Behavioral therapy only got me so far. I am in Psychodynamic therapy now, and it has been wonderful. You might want to interview someone with each orientation and ask them what the differences are and try to figure out which one seems best for you.
You might want to contact your old therapist and ask what kind of therapy he thinks would be best for you.
It is worth finding the right therapist. Best of luck to you.
Falls
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