Posted by Lucie Lu on June 27, 2008, at 22:35:28
In reply to My behaviors -Let me be clear!, posted by Looney Tunes on June 27, 2008, at 20:16:48
LT, I think Dinah's point is that our responses to our T's are so subjective that sometimes it is useful (in addition to getting support) to hear an outside view, someone willing to play devil's advocate to help you sort out a puzzling and distressing interaction or relationship. So thanks for clarifying.It does seem clear that this is not a good T for you. But I also have to wonder **WHO** are these trusting model patients this guy usually treats???? It is well established that overall, people seeking therapy nowadays have had more destructive life histories than patients/clients in the past... with greater emotional distress and significant relational difficulties as a result. So for this T to say or even imply that you are unusual or difficult makes me wonder about his caseload. Maybe it's very small :)
(And if not, it should be).I hope you can find a good T soon. Believe me, there are plenty of Ts out there with the necessary courage, skill, and compassion to help you heal... and who don't mind getting their hair mussed! Write this off as one of life's little detours, one you didn't need admittedly but helpful in defining what you want and need from another person. And it will probably make your next T look so much better when you see how the job really should be done.
Good luck, Lucie
BTW - I can't bring myself to call you Looney since you seem anything but, but I hope you'll settle for LT?
poster:Lucie Lu
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