Posted by Daisym on May 10, 2008, at 0:02:23
In reply to Re: Fighting to relationship..... again, posted by Dinah on May 9, 2008, at 17:43:12
"And there's no way I can have my usual snide thought that he was protecting his income stream."
Isn't it the truth that this is an easy shot to take at them? It really must have been a special session to shove this aside.
I know you've been really upset and with good reason. Change is hard and with all the retirements and moves going on here, it just adds to the pre-existing fears that are part and parcel of giving yourself over to this relationship. Because unlike other relationships, that change but turn into long distance relationships, therapy ends when someone moves or retires. Ends - not "we'll see each other soon." So it *is* scary.
And you do deserve for him to be present. This is not too much to ask. I'm really impressed that you could verbalize all these feelings and still feel his caring and give him yours.
You are right - it should be part of every couple's counseling text book.
Happy Mother's Day - what a nice gift your therapist/mommy gave you...and you him.
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