Posted by raisinb on May 7, 2008, at 11:29:46
In reply to Re:Guys what exactly does...., posted by rskontos on May 6, 2008, at 20:13:13
RSK, I think Llurpsie's definition is wonderful but I'd add some things. I don't know if you definitely have to be sharing an emotion, but you need to have a sense that your therapist is "into" it, whether that's positive or negative.
My therapists and I have had terrible fights. She's cried, I've cried. This was not necessarily a good thing, and there were no warm fuzzy feelings--but I knew she was present when she snapped at me or cried. I knew she was there. "Into" it is the best way I can describe it.
When they are present, you can *affect* them. You can make them feel *something.* You're not isolated and powerless.
> presence look like. Dinah I am so sorry about your therapist checking out. But something in your post made me realize something. Maybe I have never had mine's presence. Can you and Llurpsie, or raisin or someone explain presence better so my muddled mind might grasp it?
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