Posted by rskontos on April 30, 2008, at 17:16:15
In reply to living for yourself, posted by raisinb on April 30, 2008, at 13:34:44
raisinb,
this is an interesting thought. And I think, imho, that one should live for one's self because ultimately all the roles we could chose for ourselves could crumble at any given point, mother, wife, career and then were would one be? Without an identity. I just read Maria Shiver's book, Just Who Will You Be? and I think this is her main point that without being someone defined by you first and the other roles after that you aren't really living for yourself and it can wind up being hollow in the end
this is what happened to me when my daughter let for college
i had to try and redefine myself
two years later i am still trying
not doing so well
still stumbling
i am like maria shiver says a work in progress
she finds merit in that
i am trying
so i am trying too to be the defining point in my own life
it is tough
rsk
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