Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2008, at 22:26:38
In reply to my experience... » Dinah, posted by twinleaf on April 29, 2008, at 5:28:14
Oh, don't worry about thread hijacking on a thread I started. I actually like it when a threat twists and turns a bit. I don't consider it a hijacking at all. More of a conversation. I know that it's impossible to remember everyone's preferences. But truly, I see starting a thread as giving birth to a conversation and watching it grow in whatever way it happens to grow.
I talked about all this with my therapist today. I feel a lot better now. He assured me that in thirteen years he's never been aroused in my presence and never seen me in a sexual way at all. And he assures me that I can feel absolute safety in thinking that what happened in the last thirteen years will not change.
I really don't understand why it's upsetting to people, including my therapist, that I have a realistic self image. I accept that it is, but I'm not quite sure why.
I would understand better if people were concerned that I purposely made myself more fat and ugly and unappealing than I would if I weren't trying. But my therapist didn't seem to pick up on that at all, just my self image. And to tell the truth, I don't know whether I make an effort or if it's just a side benefit of what's happened anyway.
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