Posted by Racer on March 31, 2008, at 10:28:57
In reply to I just had a huge temper tantrum :-(, posted by Deneb on March 28, 2008, at 0:14:22
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> I got home to find out my Internet wasn't working. My sister changed a password or something, a small thing.Hm... I've got a slight prickling on the back of my neck. Is this *your* computer? *Your* Internet? Or is it something that's shared amongst all the family?
Either way, the considerate thing to do if you change a password on a shared connection is to leave a note or otherwise communicate that little fact to others who use that machine. And if it is *your* computer, *your* connection -- well, I don't find changing passwords on someone else's machine to be considerate behavior.
What I'm wondering is whether this is such a small thing as you're saying it is.
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> Then I anger my sister, who says some hurtful words and then I feel worse.Is this part of a pattern of behavior?
When I was growing up, my family was prone to a certain sort of behavior pattern -- tease me, push me past my limits, then criticize me for falling apart. And now, as an adult, when I tell my therapist these stories, the sorts of things that happened, she shows me just how sick those patterns were, how abusive my family members were. (And sometimes still are...) Could it be that your family shares something with mine? That the "innocent" behaviors of your sister which you react to might not be quite so innocent?
Regardless of your sister's reactions, behaviors, emotions, talents, or abilities, I'm very sorry that you had that sort of tantrum. I can't imagine that sort of overwhelming emotional reaction could be pleasant for you. I'm very sorry that you had to go through that, and hope you're feeling better now.
Peace.
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