Posted by TherapyGirl on March 27, 2008, at 20:24:07
In reply to Re: had a really horrible session today *long* » raisinb, posted by rskontos on March 27, 2008, at 19:28:37
I agree with RSK. This is a loaded post and will take some time to digest. I will tell you that I've been in the same place many, many times over the 23 years I've been in therapy (that's not a typo). It's hard to imagine how sometimes I feel more connected to my T than anybody else on the planet and sometimes we are both going through the motions. I think it has a lot to do with where I am that day and where she is. I also think part of it is the natural ebb and flow of any relationship. I've learned over the years to (mostly) trust that she cares about me even when I don't feel it. Because she does.
Your T seems a little hung up on not saying it, but it seems that you feel she does express it, right? So I think you have to get to a place where you trust that. I wish I knew how to tell you to get there, but I don't. It's going to take some time. I don't think that she is necessarily the wrong T for you since you believe she cares about you sometimes and you seem connected to her. Maybe you can try to work through this yet again?
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