Posted by crushedout on March 19, 2008, at 14:18:26
In reply to Re: Did she call back? » crushedout, posted by Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 14:12:30
Wait. I'm confused. What isn't my only option?I might be being dense. I'm not being facetious. I'm just really confused.
Are you saying I should wait till I'm not mad anymore to call her?
> It isn't your *only* option.
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> What I have found can be immensely helpful in situations like this (and yes there have been) is to tell her, with as little confrontation as possible, what you're feeling in terms of wanting certain things from her and feeling like you need certain things from her. And then explore those wants and needs, and whether they're the only way to get past an impasse in an otherwise good relationship.
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> While you're angry or while she's angry may not be the best time for it. Strike while the iron is cold is a very good relationship strategy.
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> If your relationship with her in general has not been good, or if you think (when you put aside anger and hurt) that you are ready to terminate, that's different.
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> But mightn't it be good to explore different ways to relate?
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