Posted by rskontos on March 19, 2008, at 14:04:00
In reply to Re: Did she call back? » crushedout, posted by Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 13:46:47
Crushout, I wanted to say something along the lines of Dinah. The part she mentioned about giving up timeslots to those that say they need them. My therapist is the same way. He does not just keep them open and charge you, he will give it away at the first hint too. He needs all the slots he can get.
First, I completely understand why and how you would feel. I would project those same feelings myself. And have done so many times.
But I'd to offer a new way to think about it is to own the feelings you are feelings as yours not necessarily hers because you don't really know how she feels maybey you are projecting or just guessing and basing this in part on how it has or has not happened before. And while that is a good basis, it doesn't mean it is accurate. She could be doing all you are saying she is. And she could not be. I have done exactly the same as you only to find out I am wrong, very wrong. So I just offer this to you that you are being emotional in your response to how it affects you, while she is just being a busy therapist trying to answer the needs of all her patients and not answering yours exactly as you need her to at this moment. I don't think she wants you to quit. I have based trying to quit my therapist as well on his behavior when it was not his intent far from it actually. Being sensitive to others actions is tough when actions are not always conductive to how another person is feeling when they don't wear their feelings on their shoulders. (that is how I feel I am sometimes, wearing my feelings on my shoulders, when most therapists don't.) And you may feel more like you do(that is wear your feelngs more opening like me at times). Maybe not. And if I am rambling just ignore me. But I got the sense that maybe your point of view in this and your therapists' point of view is way off, and you both really need to meet face to face and swap those views. I hope this happens. It is often hard not to take certain things not personally but we do. Try to take a step back from all of this until you can get that face to face. Good luck, I hear your pain and believe you really need to meet with her to resolve it.
let us know how it goes.
rsk
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