Posted by Quintal on March 18, 2008, at 17:36:31
In reply to Ruminations » Quintal, posted by Sigismund on March 16, 2008, at 21:47:45
>Do you have a lot of regrets?
>Are you uncertain?
>Are you frightened?Nope.
>Here there is some kind of conspiracy to make sure that every social encounter is entered into with an agreed lie (in which I prefer not to participate).
I notice it too. As if there's a secret password or something I just didn't get somewhere along the line. I'm not much bothered. People seem to spend most of the time talking about nothing anyway. Almost as if it's a prerequisite of talking about nothing. Polite conversation seems to be a dance around 'that-of-which-we-can-not-speak'.
>When people meet where you are, do they insist that everyone say they feel great?
Yes. I think it's pretty much the same everywhere. I'd bet you'll find people in the depths of the Amazon jugnle doing it too.
>When my mother was almost completely dead with cancer and seeing the doctor...
I had a similar problem with pdoc a few weeks ago. He asked how I was and I said okay then proceeded to tell him how terrible I was feeling. When I'd finished he told me off for saying I was okay in the first place. I tend to have that problem with doctors in general. When you walk into the room they always start the conversation by asking "How are you?" and I always feel it would be rude to say "Actually I'm feeling pretty terrible". I did try this once and she looked at me as if I'd just committed a social faux-pas, which it actually is for some reason.
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