Posted by Bodhisattva on February 19, 2008, at 13:43:29
In reply to *sigh* another fight--thoughts? *long, Tfighttrig*, posted by raisinb on February 19, 2008, at 12:50:20
>> Instead of letting me express my anger and hearing me, she started what she always says--that I'm just in there to convince her to be different, that I won't look at myself, that I'm just in there to put her down or beat her up.
Is she right? From your post there is quite a bit mentioned about what she's doing, how she is reacting. And that you are made frustrated by her reactions. But very very little about what you're doing, how you are reacting.She may be a little defensive when she says "put her down or beat her up" but she could be entirely correct in saying that you won't examine yourself.
That's all therapy really is, self examination with a guide, an expert on that particular inward journey.
Are you letting her guide the session or are you in the lead? Who asks the most questions? Who has control of the flow. If you find that it's you, you may want to rethink how you are approaching the therapy.
Let me know what you think in regard to that.
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