Posted by MissK on February 18, 2008, at 18:16:34
In reply to Re: Therapy - Bang for the Buck? » Hermitian, posted by sunnydays on February 18, 2008, at 15:29:21
>I was learning that people will sit with me and listen to what I have to say and not criticize me or hurt me.
Hermitian already said that being an emphatic listener is part of a good therapists job. You were discovering what it is a therapist does.
>I wish that everyone in the world could realize how severely trauma can affect people, and how long it takes to heal from that.
I do know how it can affect me. I also know that others can go through similar things in life and still approach therapy differently. Is it inconceivable to you that someone can actually frame it in mind that they are visiting a professional and do not need years to 'trust' that professional to do their job, which is to hear whatever your issues are and offer their trained and skilled therapy back?
For whatever reason you, and others apparently, need(ed) to have some kind of drawn-out relationship before you can / could get to the heart of the matter(s). I don't get that anymore than I would get it if you had to know and trust a dentist three years before you would let them near your mouth. As I said different approaches. I don't think it does anything to continually harp about "you haven't experienced it and so don't understand". Give people some credit. Some have experienced SA and other traumas and don't need years to trust a therapist to talk about their issues. Some do. Each in their own time, I guess.
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