Posted by DAisym on February 14, 2008, at 20:12:13
In reply to HUGE Step taken in Therapy today......, posted by rskontos on February 14, 2008, at 14:00:07
I'm so impressed - good for you! Did he keep it to read or did he read it with you there? My therapist likes it when we read (I read out loud) things together during a session and talk about them. It was hard at first but it works well now.
Trust is something that expands and contracts. Somethings will add to your trust and others take a way a bit. I hope you can see that your therapist has a growing savings account of trust so if he blows it (and he will) it isn't the end of everything. It is a skinned knee and you have to spend some of your savings on a bandaid. All or nothing thinkings gets us all into trouble.
I think it is important to really try and figure out what you are hoping his response to your writing will be - and why. And then tell him. Because if he jumps in with a bunch of questions and you were hoping for a lot of insight - you might be hurt or disappointed. And he might be thinking he'd be presumptuous to just tell you what he thinks without clarification. I think hidden expectations are one of the ways we set ourselves up in therapy to get hurt.
All that said - you did take a HUGE step today. Good for you for opening this door.
Have you figured out why the shower is such a trigger? I think this is an important part of your post too.
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