Posted by sassyfrancesca on February 4, 2008, at 12:57:18
In reply to Re: Still In Love With My T after Five years/I'm BACK, posted by widget on February 4, 2008, at 12:30:20
Hi, Widget: How does it feel to hear those words? Amazing.....it is excruciating to love someone for 5 years that isn't available.
I've read all of the research about why therapists shouldn't have outside relationships with clients, etc., etc....supposedly there is the power differential, etc., etc........My t considers me a "colleague"---Long story why.
I read somewhere that "the therapy room is the only place we call love by another name"----transference........This isn't transference for me; it is real; if I had met him anywhere else; I would have fallen in love with him; we are alike in over 30 different ways; we even have the same (rare ) eye disease....No (LOL) that isn't a prerequisite for being in love, LOL; we each know a man who has a very odd name and they both play the violin (that one blew me away)--they are 2 different people.
My t is going to convention in Hawaii---long story; on impulse I decided to go (I am a member of the American Counseling Association); I doubt I will see him; quite a lovely fantasy, though.
Hugs, Francesca
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