Posted by MissK on January 19, 2008, at 10:06:19
In reply to thoughts on this?, posted by raisinb on January 19, 2008, at 9:07:41
My thoughts:
Part of the 'safe' therpeutic environment is the safety of the client to feel and express his/her hurt and vulnerability.
Not knowing what she said, all I can ask is: was what she said right and true in regards to whatever the subject was you were discussing at the time?
I've not experienced being directly hurt by my T. I have experienced feeling hurt with the understandings she helps me arrive at while we are talking sometimes.
If it were me, I would try to make the distinction between her hurting me personally and feeling hurt because of what we are discussing.
>My response has been to shut down, to refuse to answer questions on certain topics or any questions about feelings,
Sounds like there is still more that you want to tell her and have her understand about the hurt you felt. So do it.
> but says she can't guarantee that what happened before won't happen again.
She's right. She won't always know how you are going to process the therapy she provides. She's there, hopefully, to respond and help with how you do though.
>So am I being unreasonable, or is she being mean?
By the way you wrote abot it, it doesn't sound like she's being mean. As for you being unreasonable, again I don't know what she said exactly or if what she said was right and true in the context of what you were discussing.
Hope it resolves.
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