Posted by Bodhisattva on January 4, 2008, at 9:42:52
In reply to sexual element of 'transference' with therapist, posted by widget on January 4, 2008, at 9:05:57
From a basic perspective, sexual feelings have one reason for their existence. That being perpetuating the species......making babies.
Being a female, your attraction would be easier triggered by someone that would be good at taking care of you. Therapists methods often resemble what from another person would just be tender loving care. So it is only natural that someone that has intimate knowledge of your feelings and has been helping you through some difficult issues would cause some strong feelings of attraction (especially if they aren't bad looking either).
Of course, there are many more aspects to this than just that. There wouldn't be if people had just 2-dimensional black and white personalities. But we don't.
It sounds like he is completely aware of the delicate feelings involved with this, and is very willing to discuss the subject despite his own aversion to that particular subject. You should take full advantage to explore it, and in so doing learn even more about yourself than if you were to do so alone.
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