Posted by muffled on December 18, 2007, at 10:38:13
In reply to Re: Nuther thing » muffled, posted by seldomseen on December 18, 2007, at 8:42:54
> I may be way off base, but I have a theory about what is happening here.
*never off base w/me. I am always wanting to learn. Thank you.
> I think what is happening to you and what you are doing is about power and control. I suspect the only models you have had about power and control have been those who exerted this by physical force. Like "I can gain control of this situation by beating my way out it - see I WON, I have the power now".*You are pretty darn on with this I reckon. I have this thing about being weak. i am better than I used to be. But I REALLY exposed myself last week, and that was hard.
> I also suspect that you put yourself in these risky situations when you are feeling particularly vulnerable so that you can exert that physical power and control and reassure yourself that you have it. "Yes I am strong, Yes I am the the aggressor, Yes I have the power. I'm not vulnerable and weak - no sir NOT ME"*EXACTLY
> I think it is natural that you are confused when people express concern and support for you when you hurt or are at your weakest - previously that might have been a signal for an attack! But hopefully this can be a new model for you.*Yeah..I not big on being vulnerable...
> One where people understand vulnerability and recognize how strong one has to be to be vulnerable.* iam working on this...
> People do love you Muffled and I'm glad you reached out to your T and got home. It's so nice to be picked up when we are down and led to a safe place.*ya, its kinda weird ok
> Again, I may be way off base and if I am, I sincerely apologize.*not off base at all, and I appreciate you taking the time to share your thots. Its all good.
> I guess all I wanted to say is that there is hope, and there can be an end to the violence, and that's all I really want for you.*yea....I think I see light at the end of the tunnel sometimes....
Thanks seldom,
Muffled
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