Posted by frida on December 16, 2007, at 15:47:11
In reply to How do I prepare.. . ., posted by JoniS on December 15, 2007, at 14:27:44
Hi..
T's long absences are so hard. I've been through some summers in which my T was absent for 2 months and a bit more. This summer she goes away for a month. These are some things which have helped me and which will help me to feel connected to her during her time away:
I always ask her the book she's reading or if she can please recommend one to me. This helps me have a way to be close to her..knowing she's reading the same book or she chose that book for me. She always tells me the one she's going to be reading. It's a simple thing, but it really helps me feel close to her, as if i had some kind of..safe place.
I write to her, send her a card, an email, or just write to share with her when she's back. I buy a nice notebook especially for this. Sometimes it helps, and sometimes it makes it hard.
I ask her to tell me of some movies which have moved her and she has liked. This helps a lot as well, to feel connected.
Sometimes I do something for her, to give her when she's back..something hand-made, like a drawing, or a bigger project.
and I try to think of the times she went away but came back..
sometimes being distracted helps time go faster. Telling someone that I'm finding it hard without my T and trying to reach to someone else helps too in some way.
i know it's so hard. Sometimes it gets soo so painful not to have the safety and support..and to try to manage and handle feelings....I hope you can talk about this with your T, and maybe he can suggest ways to help you get through that time without him.
Frida
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