Posted by Dinah on December 13, 2007, at 21:42:59
In reply to What kind of T relationship helps the most?, posted by twinleaf on December 13, 2007, at 21:29:30
Maybe there's no really good answer to that. Otherwise there wouldn't be so very many types of therapist.
I happened to be checking out Bette Midler's Christmas album when I read this, so instantly "Wind Beneath My Wings" came to mind. Which when translated probably means that the best sort of therapist to me right now is the safe base sort of therapist. Or maybe the help me modulate myself sort of therapist.
Although that isn't entirely correct either. My therapist by nature or training tends to be the teaching sort, I think. If he tried to do that quickly, it would never work with me. But over the years his stories and gentle not quite leading questions and comments have brought changes in the way I think about things. Probably the same sort of changes he aims for a lot quicker in most cases. He usually leaves it to me to figure things out, at least he seems to, and that works well for me. But often enough my brilliant insights into myself sound suspiciously like things he's gently inserted into my consciousness over time.
And there has always been a level of spirituality in our relationship as well.
So maybe some sort of combination of safe base, mother helping her child with self regulation, and jedi master and padawan?
Or maybe not. Maybe that's just what I need to see in him at this point in time.
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