Posted by Racer on December 8, 2007, at 19:39:47
In reply to Re: I don't think that's extreme... » Racer, posted by Maxime on December 8, 2007, at 18:19:17
> He says that although I keep people at distance, that I still want human contact and that not having it is what is making me depressed (????). Not only does he thing I need a boyfriend, but other friends as well. I just feel like the biggest loser because I don't have many friends and I am still single. I feel worse about it when he brings it up EVERY time I see him.
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> Maxime
>Ah, that makes more sense. Of course, that doesn't mean that I think he's approaching the subject all that well, but I know that I have a conflict between wanting human contact and avoiding it, and I know it really does increase my depression...
Maxie, could he be trying -- if clumsily -- to prompt you towards getting involved in something outside yourself? If so -- well, therapists are supposed to treat the client as-is-where-is, as we are now, not as maybe we might be in more optimal circumstances. Your T might be getting ahead of the process, since I don't think you're there yet. Maybe thinking about ways that you could meet new people -- NOT boyfriends, just people who might become friends -- and offering that up as a plan for when you get past some issues? Maybe that would encourage him to stop bringing it up for now?
I'm sorry you're going through this. This does not sound like the best possible fit for you with a therapist, and after all the times I've encouraged you to try it, I hate to think you got a dud...
xoxo
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