Posted by Daisym on December 8, 2007, at 11:35:02
In reply to This is sort of weird for me to read..., posted by Racer on December 8, 2007, at 10:49:02
Someone told me a long time ago - "intensity, not volume." But that said, I have raised my voice and yelled "at" my therapist - but not ripping him because of what he did or didn't do. More about he poked into a painful spot and it comes out, kind of like: "YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE ME! DO YOU KNOW WHAT HE DID TO ME?!" -- and then I usually fall apart and cry because of course he knows, I've spent years telling him. He's never shushed me, or asked me to calm down. Once I said I need to pace and he said fine - stomp around.
When I'm mad at him, I usually distance and withdraw into silence. I think he'd prefer if I yelled.
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