Posted by rskontos on December 7, 2007, at 15:21:47
In reply to Re: I think my therapist dislikes my mother more t » Dinah, posted by Racer on December 7, 2007, at 14:03:08
Dinah, I might be way off too and I have purposely let my thoughts simmer to see if I changed my mind but when I was reading and re-reading your post I wondered if you weren't trying the analize the analyst to avoid what he might be provoking in you. Maybe like Racer and others were suggesting to defend your mother because we all no matter how bad they might be still defend them. My mother was brutal and cruel and still after she was dead for almost 20 years she had a hold over me. I only just now broke it and can see her more clearly. I don't defend her but need my T to point out how bad her actions were. I only now can discuss how bad she was with my other sibling. I can only now believe my sister when she relates what she remembers. Before when she told me stuff that my mother did I DIDN'T BELIEVE her my own sister. I do now. The hold has been broken. I am not saying your mother was this bad just that we all can not want to know how bad their behavior was cause it hurts and in recognizing it we then must deal with that. And we don't want to. So I think it isn't necesarrily that he dislikes her he just wants to make sure you know what she did was unacceptable and to deal with the aftermath now not later in 5 or 10 years. It isn't always why they did what they did but how did it make you feel and have you dealt with it. I know why my mother did what she did, she was ill and had no help and should have been in the hospital not trying to care for three children. Now I have to deal with how it messed me up. And how I feel about that now. Because it is affecting my life. I think your T just wants to make sure it isn't affecting your life negatively.
Maybe I am wrong too. JMHO......take care......take care of yourself. rsk
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