Posted by Wittgenstein on December 6, 2007, at 4:35:55
In reply to Re: Reiki » Dinah, posted by sunnydays on December 5, 2007, at 22:20:16
Sunnydays,
I can see why the use of Reiki has stirred up some concern from posters. From what I read on wiki it can be practiced with flexibility - the client can lie down or be seated, touch can be involved or no touch - even the locations used can be limited to certain parts of the body, such as the head or shoulders. I can see why some people might find this idea worrying and uncomfortable - we all have our concepts of the right relationship between T and client and regarding touch and proximity. But within this is a wide spectrum - some T's offer hugs, others would never dream of doing this, some keep themselves firmly hidden while others liberally disclose information about themselves - some even give therapy from their family home. Some use e-mail, others find it unprofessional etc. etc.
My point is that there is no one way of doing things.
It makes me sad that your mother transferred her own suspicions and fears of therapists (based on her own experience and not on yours) onto you and your relationship with your T, which is something private and separate from her. I can see how damaging this probably was (such an experience would have really set me back). It's really good that you have been able to work through this but I can see why the topic of Reiki is stirring things up again. The good thing is you have plenty of time to understand more about Reiki and discuss your worries and decide whether you are comfortable with the idea. You know your T best and he knows you (best?) too.
Every time you share about your T, I can't help but feel what a good guy he is and how good your relationship is. Have you taken some time to read back through all the lovely posts you have written in the past - perhaps that will help?
If my mother would ever read or get a glimpse of my private e-mails from my T I would be mortified. She would probably burst out laughing (cackling) and say something horrid. But that is her and not me or anything to do with my T. Easier said than internalised but that is the truth.
Witti
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