Posted by sunnydays on December 5, 2007, at 22:20:16
In reply to Re: Reiki » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on December 5, 2007, at 18:05:19
> I have tried to think of this in other ways, but it still seems like a scary thought to me. I remember that In Session talked about how emotionally laden everything a therapist does becomes to a client. And it seems like so many erotic feelings arise from the therapy situation even without touch.
**** See, the thing is, I don't really have any erotic feelings for my T. I really see him as a parent-figure. I can see how that would always be a concern with a therapist being very physically close to a client, though.
> I don't want to belabor the point, but it makes me nervous.**** It makes me a little nervous too. But I trust that my T is incredibly ethical, and that if I was uncomfortable either he or I would sense it and we could stop. And work through it.
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> I guess it's a bit better if no touch is actually involved, but remembering that relationship game involving *almost* touching, I'm still wary.**** I don't know. I guess I see it as more of a thing focused on the spiritual side of things and the energy, and less on the touch side of it, so I don't think it would bother me. But I think that I could always try and see and stop if I didn't like it. I would definitely be able to say I didn't want to keep going, I've done that before when we've done guided imageries or other things where I got too uncomfortable and just couldn't handle it.
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> But maybe that is just me. I'll freely admit that my views on touch are influenced by my own issues.*** As are mine, unfortunately.
> Sunny, it seems like your relationship with your therapist already is quite charged emotionally. Do you think this will increase that charge? Make it more painful between sessions?
**** I don't know. I don't think so. I think if it does what it's supposed to, I will be much more relaxed and it will actually help release some of that emotional charge. But I could be wrong, since I don't know how it works.
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> Ok, I'll stop now, and I am sorry for belaboring it to this extent. It's only a result of concern.**** I understand. It's a really sensitive area for me, so I appreciate how carefully you worded what you said. I've been having a lot of problems the past couple weeks with being worried my relationship with my T is bad or wrong (all going back to Thanksgiving when my mom saw the emails), so it's a reeeeaaal sensitive issue. But we have been working on it, and I feel like we've done some really important work lately, especially last session. And I do think that my relationship with my T is a really good thing for me, and I don't want to do something that might screw it up. But I think this is something I could try, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Anyway, I must sleep now because I'm getting upset and I need to center again (I'll be able to and I'm really ok with what you said, Dinah, it's just a sensitive spot right at the moment, so don't worry about it.)
Thanks, sunnydays
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