Posted by sunnydays on November 26, 2007, at 22:07:40
In reply to Re: Giving advice about Therapy » Daisym, posted by RealMe on November 26, 2007, at 21:08:23
Well, I think having strict boundaries is one thing and keeping boundaries is another. My T has fairly loose boundaries I would say, just from reading the responses here. I know quite a bit about his life (he tells me little stories about how he interacts with his kids, his wife, every once in a while something about his hobbies, I think to model for me what a healthy adult and a healthy relationship can look like). And he lets me email him multiple times a day if I want, although he doesn't answer more than a sentence or two (and usually only a word or two) and he only answers one or two emails a day. He reads them all, though. And I can call his voicemail whenever I want.
I'm kind of wondering now if people think there's something wrong with having looser boundaries like this? I said in my response to Daisy how it's an issue that recently got raised for me by mother (who is a very dysfunctional person whose perceptions I cannot trust), so maybe I'm being oversensitive. I think that my T keeps boundaries, they're just fairly loose is all. He's told me I can ask him for anything I want to, he has no problem saying no, and I believe him.
Anyway, I guess I'm asking for reassurance. I get worried about what other people think sometimes, which is the downside of Babble. I think I need to trust my gut that this relationship I have with my therapist is exactly what I need right now.
Thanks for putting up with me,
sunnydays
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