Posted by Daisym on November 25, 2007, at 19:16:58
In reply to Re: making progress, posted by angela2 on November 25, 2007, at 18:24:43
"Part of me doesn't care about myself and doing the things that will make me happy and rewarded. Apathy and ambivalence and habit"
Or maybe you aren't sure it is OK to let yourself have the things that make you happy? Is it OK to reward yourself for achievments?
I think it is OK to be talking to this therapist while waiting for another. It would be best if she knew that, but understandably that would be hard to tell someone. When I started therapy with my current therapist, I had met with another therapist the week before, interviewing. She asked me to commit to her for 6 weeks before deciding therapy couldn't help me. So, being new to this whole therapy thing, I said I would. But I'd already scheduled the "interview" with this other guy. Turned out I really clicked with him - but I had this commitment. So I honored it for a month and felt guilty the whole time. But it was a really good way for me to figure out what wasn't going to work for me.
And as far as helping yourself - it is harder to do than say. I think we all need to find a balance of pushing ourselves and leaning on another. It can't be all one way or another. Setting your own goals can be very empowering. So can letting someone else help you reach them.
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