Posted by Dinah on November 19, 2007, at 11:35:07
In reply to Re: Are your therapists open to feedback? » Dinah, posted by Deputy 10derHeart on November 19, 2007, at 11:20:17
> So for me, the fact my T. and I are secure in the warmth, mutual respect and commitment to the process, is really healing and liberating.
I love that description. Is it ok to borrow it? It sounds as if we have similar therapy relationships. Warmth, mutual respect, and commitment to the process is *exactly* right.
> And we wouldn't be doing this without my blunt and challenging style. Thinking back, some of the best, most connected moments in that room started with me examining the relationship, and us going up and down, back and forth till we reached some sort of 'meeting point'
We do that too! We occasionally agree to disagree but that leaves what feels like a little grain of sand in an oyster. It rankles and irritates on a very low level. But most of the time we at least go back and forth to a statement we both can agree on. Sometimes that just means understanding and acknowledging the other person's point of view without actual agreement.
As time goes on that becomes less and less necessary of course.
I think we arrived to the same destination by different roads. I was never discouraged to say exactly what I thought. But I find mixed signals crazymaking. If what he's saying doesn't match with what I'm feeling from him, I get incrediby upset until I figure it out. Too much so, I'm sure.
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