Posted by ells on November 13, 2007, at 22:20:08
In reply to Re: Is this also considered transference?, posted by Dinah on November 13, 2007, at 13:09:32
Hi Dinah-
This definitely makes sense-- I think he really does represent everything that is missing in our marriage right now. I'm not sure if it's helping my own personal relationship w/my husband any because it seems to be making me feel more hypercritical of his faults and shortcomings.., but it's definitely given me a lot to think about and a nice place to go and fantasize when I need to..
The good side of this is that it has re-awakened feelings in me (sexuality wise) that I've not had in years and that feels really really really good--definitely reassuring that those feelings can still be experienced. At this point it's kind of fun, and I will just enjoy it and not take it any further at this point, since I would like to have him keep working w/my son for the long term. I will keep my distance and not mess things up.
Thanks for replying!
> You're probably filling in the blanks with this person based on the role he's playing in your life and your son's life.
>> Do you think it's possible to use this moment to evaluate your relationship with your husband? Is there any chance of repairing the relationship? Your feelings for your son's therapist are trying to tell you something, and while it might not always be wise to act on feelings, I'm guessing it can be wise to listen to what they're saying.
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